Did you know that on average, you have 3.5 thoughts run through your head per second? PER SECOND! But most of us aren’t making the most of what we’re thinking, saying or doing. In short, we’re not making the most of what’s called “self-efficacy” or, in other words, to make what we want in our lives, families and businesses happen.
Okay, a couple of notes here. First, self-efficacy doesn’t refer to the actual skills that a human being possesses. Instead, it’s about what you believe about what can be accomplished with those skills.
So answer this: What do you believe can be accomplished with your skills?
If you just took a big gulp (of air, not a soda), that’s totally normal. I mean, this is kind of a huge question, right? But it’s also an important one—so I’m going to give you four tools to help you recognize your belief and help you build powerful self-efficacy.
- Think about what you’re thinking. Every one of those 3.5 thoughts you had last second comes with its own special little snapshot. We see a picture, then we feel an emotion, then we act. Taking the time to slow down, organize your thoughts and allow yourself to feel the associated feeling is the first step on the ladder to self-efficacy. As you organize those thoughts and feelings, you’ll see consistent patterns, which then allow you to act in a powerful, more directed way.
- Recognize what you’re saying. Another staggering fact for you: most people speak around 80 words per minute. That’s a lot of words! But how many times do you find yourself listening to someone else (or perhaps even yourself) and recognizing that all you’re hearing (or saying) is little more than “blah, blah, blah?” Language matters – I can’t emphasize that enough! Are your words aligned with your thoughts; the consistent themes running in your head? Are you using language to bring people towards you and to help you? Take time to listen, and choose your words carefully.
- Look at what you’re doing. Many times we find ourselves on “auto pilot” or “cruise control” and aren’t really paying attention to our actions. So check yourself out: Do your actions match your words and thoughts? Be deliberate deliberate in your efforts to act in accordance with your words and thoughts. The results will be powerful—and will come faster than you could ever imagine.
- Use your resources. Generally we have someone in our lives who is a trusted resource or confidante. It could be a parent, friend, spouse, or co-worker. Use them—in a positive way. Once you’ve discovered the consistent themes in your thoughts and begun to recognize what you’re saying and doing, discuss them (a lot!) Then set a goal, and ask them to hold you more accountable as you work towards it. It makes it much easier to see your goal, and you have a far better chance of achieving it.
So now you have four tools you can use to get (and keep) you on the right path towards true self-efficacy. Now, start putting those 3.5 thoughts a second to work for you.
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